Thursday, July 22, 2010

Growing Up & Growing Apart

One of the hardest parts of growing up for me, is the growing apart part too! I met my friend Taylor when i was in 7Th grade. We met our other bff Kristin when we were in high school. The 3 of us have been through hell and high water, there's not one part of life that I've not been through with these gals. They're amazing people and I hold them so dear to my heart. We're now 23 going on 24 and life is changing so drastically right before our eyes. We all have our own lives beginning, separate, but still in touch. Each of us have different groups of friends, relationships, and Ive got the "Mommy" thing going for me, and I'm sure the 2 of them will be quickly on their own ways to motherhood soon. It's such a bittersweet chapter. While we each have matured and flourished in our own ways, we have always had one another to run back to when nature/fate/God/a mistake etc...has decided to knock us down and kick us where it counts.... The twist and turn of events that EVERY person goes through at some point is hitting the 3 of us NOW. Taylor has decided to make a change in her life and move away to settle down, have babies, get married...the whole bit. I'm very proud of her and happy for her happiness, but i cannot help but feel so sad at the same time. I love my bffs with all my heart, and were growing up and growing apart literally. This is a part of life I've been told. It sure isn't my favorite part, however I am starting to feel that no matter the distance or silenced times, our friendship A. will change but B. will remain strong and forever!!! We all attended a going away party for Taylor and caught up on each others lives and reminisced about the past. I told the girls, "The crappiest part about life long friendships is that you don't always appreciate them or realize how important they are to you until its gone or too late." Its easy to just say to yourself, "they'll always be there, so i can keep them on the back burner." I drove away balling my little brains out. Change doesn't always feel good, but more often than not turns out to be "Good" for us. I adore my gals and they will always hold a very strong part of my heart in their hands. I want to encourage everyone reading this to think about someone you've known forever or just a long time, and make it a point to value each day and take advantage of each day you can with that person. "Value" the relationships, that you have put aside, "MORE" today than yesterday. Pick up the phone or zip an email. Our relationships help to mold us and define us. I would hate to lose out on an opportunity to be molded or defined just a little more. To Taylor and Kristin, I love you so much. This chapter of us, isn't by any means a Good bye, but a see you and talk to you soon! A dear farewell. We're Growing Up!


  1. I have felt the same way in the past but as the lives apart change, your friendship can strenghten at the same time. I have a friend from 2nd grade. I moved away to college and she decided to settle down and get married and have a baby. 3 kids later, her life is even more hectic but we (still living 1 hr apart) still plan to get together every couple of months. We make it work b/c our friendship is worth it!!! We may go a month without talking but when we do, we pick up right where we left off!!!

    So, keep your faith! Enjoy seeing your friends life change but know that you friendship will just be slightly altered. You just learn to adapt to it! Really good friends are hard to find =) You're lucky to have 2!!!

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  4. This was a painful reality for me too....I was the first of my closest friends to have a child...and suddenly felt like I didn't relate the same way to them as I did before. They moved away, traveled, went to college...I was still in the same place..being mommy and each time they came back home, things were a little different. Then having a kid with special needs made me grow up a little more than I probably would have at 23...and caused a little more distance.

    We all still keep in touch and still see each other as very big parts of who we are & have great memories of each other...but like you said...we all grew up and grew apart...One friend is still single and pursuing an acting career ( I envy her excitement sometimes ) and the other is on kid number 5 ( I thought for sure after witnessing my daughter's birth she had sworn off having musta made it look to easy..)!!

    No hard feelings or bitterness between any of us....we all just have different lives and different dynamics...but we all still have love for each other and try to touch base when our busy lives allow it....but yeah..sometimes that part of growing up sucks...

    I will say that I have made new close friends that I have more of a connection with in the life I love now...and that doesnt take away from what I had with my other friends...Its just another Chapter in my life...

    Good luck to you and your girlfriends..<3